seven tips to break-up the nice way

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by Sara Musfeldt

Every time I’ve been broken up with it’s been awful. In many ways, I’m sure that’s how it is for most of us. Since there’s no great way to do it, there are things you can do to make it a little easier to cope with and respectful.

Show respect for the other person and yourself and break-up face to face. Don’t be fearful of doing the break-up while looking that person in the eye.

Pick a mutually comfortable spot and don’t break-up in a public place. With very few other people around, you won’t fall apart with total strangers watching. There’s nothing worse.

Keep a quick break-up date. Every one is better off if the meeting is short because a long meal could be too much to endure with tears and anger overcoming the other person.

Avoid the clich and don’t say the following: “I love you, but I’m not in love with you” and “It’s not you, it’s me.”

Recognize the other person’s feelings and when it’s proper, white lies are OK. The little things that drive you crazy (like movie preferences and eating habits) are not the real reason the relationship is ending. Now is not the time to pick her or him apart.

Avoid analogies and don’t compare the other person to cars, food, ex’s, vacations, and so on. Just say “I think we’d both be happier with someone else” or “I don’t see this going anywhere.”

Call once, but no more because dragging out a break-up might give the other person hope for reconciliation when there is none. It’s best to just check in once to say hello and that you’re sorry, but that it really is best to go your separate ways. Then you can be done.

About the Author:

About the Author: Sara Musfeldt’s website DatingTales.net is filled with dating stories, and she also provides an online dating guide with lots of online dating tips.