Is He Cheating?

by Alex Archer

Has the thought ever crossed your mind–my husband may be having an affair? There are a number of signs to look for without actually confronting him. The following things to look out for don’t necessarily mean that he’s cheating, but they may provide you with some clues if he is.

Has your man ever made up an outrageous story about where he was or what he was doing some night when he didn’t come home? Does he unnecessarily explain in detail why he was late from work? Do his excuses just plain not make sense? This may be an indication that he is having an affair and trying to keep the truth from you.

On the other hand, maybe your husband has started buying you a lot of gifts lately. He may be uncharacteristically showering you with all sorts of nice things, not because of any newfound appreciation of you, but out of guilt for having an affair.

Sometimes, though, husbands might pick fights at the drop of a hat. The reasons for this are twofold: it may be a coping mechanism, a way of dealing with his guilt over cheating on you, but it also is a good excuse to storm out and rendezvous with his secret lover.

If your husband starts primping himself like a teenage girl all of a sudden, ironing his clothes or dabbing himself with cologne, this could be another indication that he’s prettying himself up not for you, but for a secret lady friend.

Finally, has your level of intimacy decreased? Has the “spark” gone out of your relationship? Have you stopped spending quality time together? A lack of physical and/or emotional intimacy can be another clue that something just isn’t right in your relationship.

There are many other signs of infidelity in addition to these. Most importantly, though, it is important to trust your instincts. What is your gut reaction? Ask yourself why you’re suspicious in the first place - is it about his behavior or about your own insecurities?

If he is, in fact, cheating, remember that healing after an affair is possible. For most couples recovery is possible and the marriage can become better than it ever was. Take a long look at what you’ve put into your relationship before you decide to leave. And regardless of the outcome for your relationship, make sure to thoroughly address your feelings about the betrayal or the hurt will resurface in the future and cause more problems.

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