Why You Need to RUN AWAY When He is Pursuing You!

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by Sarah Love

Have you ever thought of what it takes to make someone want something? It’s not a question most women confront head-on. However, it is a question you HAVE to confront if you are in the dating market to find yourself a partner, boyfriend, husband or lover.

Not many among us are born with the true gift of gab, like salespeople have. We cannot effectively sell something, describing its intrinsic value and convincing them that they cannot live without it. You are not an item, either, that can be offered with a free trial or money back guarantee.

What makes an individual place value on an item most of the time is rarity. Think about a precious gem for instance. Emeralds, rubies, diamonds - they cost so much because they are not easily accessible. They must be looked for, found, dug up. Because of that, they are highly valued and treasured. I, for one, want to be a diamond!

Now imagine yourself being the diamond. In order to catch a man’s interest and attract him, you must be a rare find indeed - chased after, wanted, and cherished. Think about the last thing that you REALLY wanted, maybe that cool new iPhone or something. You HAD to have it, were so excited about getting it - you wanted it. Then you got it, and it was great, but after a few weeks, you don’t think about it much anymore do you?

Once you HAVE the item you want, the allure of the item fades. The same is true in dating. If you let him “have” you too soon, then he loses interest in you a lot faster. The attraction starts to fade quickly if you are no longer giving him the thrill of the chase that men love so much.

So what you need to do to create attraction for your date is to think of yourself as a wild animal, unable to be captured. Most women, though, WANT to be captured! As funny as that sounds, to many women, the idea of being caught and “tamed” is sexy and alluring - they like the idea of the strength that represents for a man. However - if you want to keep HIM attracted, you need to lead him on a merry chase.

So how do you DO this? Well, start with the small things. First and foremost - don’t have SEX with him until you are SURE a relationship has developed. Keep in mind that for a man - having sex does not mean he loves you or is in a “relationship” with you by any means. So do not give it up until you have what you want from him.

Second, do things like end a great conversation a little early. Say you are having a GREAT talk with him, and you are both into it. Instead of continuing on, though, you make an excuse to have to go, and hang up the phone. This leaves him wanting MORE, thinking about you and eager to talk to you the next time.

You can also do simple things like not answer the phone when he calls. Give him a few hours to stew in it, and then call him back. You are a BUSY, sought after woman. Don’t agree to the first date he suggests, tell him you are busy that night, but suggest a different night. Do you see what I am getting at here? You need to let him CHASE you.

Always keep in the back of your mind that scarcity creates value with anything, and the same is certainly true with dating and relationships. Make yourself more valuable by being a little stingy with your company at times and you will keep him coming back for more. Remember, too, that this same tactic can be used in relationships to maintain your natural attraction levels.

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