Getting Your Ex Girlfriend Back - Are You Pushing Or Pulling?

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by Claire Tourney

To increase your chances of getting your ex girlfriend back you have to play it smart. And it’s important for you to understand that some of things you are doing right now to win her back, even with the best of intentions, may actually be pushing her further away from you instead.

Now is the time to step back and take a look at the way you have been handling the situation up to now. Are you letting your emotions run away with you and keep you from thinking clearly? This is only going to make it worse and you will dig yourself into a deeper hole.

Now that someone that you really love and feel you need in your life has left or wants to leave you may begin to panic. Your brain shuts off and the heart takes over instead. So what makes us get so crazy when it comes to love? This panic you feel can come from the loss of control you think you are experiencing now - everything was all right with the world and you both were happy together, and now you find yourself thrown into a world of unknowns. Even if you didn’t feel completely happy in the relationship it was familiar to you. Now you feel like you have to do something to regain that feeling of control and this can lead to desperation.

This sense of desperation can lead to the push away behaviors that make it much harder to get back together with your ex girlfriend. Things such as continuously arguing with her about the break up or being angry with her for leaving will only serve to widen the split that’s already opened between you.

And every time you beg or plead with your girlfriend to come back it will only drive her further and further away. Even if you think that if she really, really knew how much you love her and need her she would come flying back into your open arms, you may find that you have pushed your girlfriend into the open arms of another man instead.

You must understand that you just cannot attract your girlfriend back when you are being depressed, angry or extremely needy!

Or perhaps your thinking that if you don’t do something soon, if you don’t show your ex girlfriend how much you care as soon as possible - it might be too late to ever recover. The truth is you will only cause her to feel even more alienated and angry with you.

You really need to take a break and get a handle on your emotions, and start to get your head clear and become rational again. A brief cooling off period will give you and your ex girlfriend space to breath and take a look at what went wrong in the relationship, and it will be much easier to begin communicating effectively after there has been some time and distance between you both.

Even if you have made some big mistakes it’s not too late; so remember, take that step back now and give it a break. Use this cooling off period instead to pull yourself together and learn a SMARTER WAY of getting your ex girlfriend back!

About the Author:

Hi I’m Claire Tourney and I’d like to help you understand the BIG BLUNDERS you might be making right now in your break up and show you an effective, PROVEN PLAN for getting your ex girlfriend back. with your ex my Squidoo Lens Getting Your Ex Girlfriend Back Now!