How To Get Your Ex Back - Handling Your Emotional State

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by Claire Tourney

If you have been through a break up and are serious about wanting to get your ex back one of the first things to do is to get a handle on your emotional state. If you are crying all the time, falling apart over every sad song or anything that reminds you of your ex, it’s time to pull yourself together.

Experiencing intense emotional states is understandable and may also get you the attention you might feel you need right now, but after while your ex along with the other people in your life are going to tire of the drama and wonder why you can’t seem to get yourself together.

The Holly stereotype of the depressed, moody lover may be interesting to watch in the movie theater, but it’s not going to play well in real life with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend.

And although you might not realize it, continuing to allow your emotions to run away with you can be a way of refusing to face the reality that there are some things you need to change if you are serious about wanting to get back with your ex lover.

It’s also important to ask yourself if you are actually sad about the break up or are you ADDICTED to the feeling of heartbreak and sadness instead?

You have to be very careful here because intense emotional states release chemicals into our cell systems that can become addictive over time and that’s a big reason why you find people stuck in the same cycles of behavior, experiencing the same dramas and making the same mistakes. Their cells are actually looking for another intense emotional fix and this triggers the behavior patterns that cause the emotional state over and over again.

The best remedy for this is to be aware when you are doing it. Sometimes we get so caught up in our own dramas that we don’t even realize that we are repeating the same behavior patterns over and over again. Once you start catching yourself doing this you experience an ah ha! moment and you start to reverse the pattern.

Now you will start to feel a little more in control and ready to take a more positive approach to get your emotions balanced and your self confidence back.

Be glad about the fact that you are getting smarter about your emotions and use this time away from your ex to work on yourself and what you need to change. Doing things that make you happy and help you to feel better and stronger will not only increase your confidence, but will also make you more attractive to your ex boyfriend or girlfriend. Then you are ready to begin learning how to get your ex back - the SMART way!

About the Author:

Hi I’m Claire Tourney. Visit my Squidoo Lens How To Get Your Ex Back-The Smart Way to understand how your emotions may be hindering your chances of getting back with your ex and to discover a PROVEN, effective plan for getting your ex back.