Patience Will Help You Get Your Ex Back

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by Molly Laws

You and your partner have recently broken up. After careful consideration you have decided that the two of you not being together is just wrong. The planets aren’t aligned that way. You belong together and you want to get your ex back.

Because you feel so strongly about the rightness of your relationship you may be tempted to immediately contact your ex. You want to phone your ex at home or at work. You want to show up in a place where you know he or she is likely to be. You want to initiate contact and then force your ex to listen to reason.

If you succumb to this temptation to contact your ex chances are you will only drive your former partner even further away. Hard as it may be for you to do, you have to be patient, you have to wait.

Something Caused the Break Up

You and your ex have split up for a reason, or more likely for several reasons. The cause may not make sense to you but it is still important. If now, soon after the break up, you charge into making contact with your ex, demanding to be heard, you will make the situation even worse than it already is.

Difficult as it may be, you have to wait.

How long you have to wait before initiating contact is a decision only you can make. The circumstances of the break up will help you to judge.

If the problems that caused the split were long simmering, wait longer. If there was shouting, recriminations, anger at the time of the split, wait even longer.

What do you know about your ex? How long will it take him or her to calm down? Once you think you have a good idea of how long to wait, double the time.

Use the Time Wisely

This waiting period is not lost time. Use this time to look at your own foibles and engage in some self-improvement.

Think about the cause of your break up and your part in it. When the time comes to talk to your ex you need to be able to acknowledge your mistakes and your faults. You need to be able to assure your ex that you are aware of your less attractive qualities and are already taking steps toward improvement.

To get your ex back you will need to practice self control and patience. You will need to able to look critically at yourself and be willing to make improvements. This may be difficult but if the two of you are meant to be together all your efforts will be well rewarded.

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